I once heard of a person who loved their Jewellery. One day a visitor asked to see them. So the jewels were brought out, amid much expensive security, and the visitors gazed at the wonderful stones. Shortly after, they decided to leave and as they were leaving, they said, “Thank you for sharing your jewels with me.” The owner said “I didn’t give them to you, they still belong to me.”.
“Yes of course,” replied the visitor, “And while we enjoyed the jewels just the same, the real difference between us is your trouble and expense of buying and protecting them.”
Just because you appreciate something or someone, doesn’t mean you have to have it. It is an incredibly valuable skill to admire something or someone without desiring them.