My parents always emphasized the importance of resistance. If someone offers you something, have the capacity to say no. Learn how to do things by yourself. Learn to be independent.
Ofcourse, at age 8, I applied this rule to resisting desert at a guest’s house: a gigantic bar of snickers that appeared even larger when I was that small. With my ‘sweet tooth’, I always have an unnaturally strong urge for foods which are sweet and saying no to that bar of Snickers is something I regret to this day.
Fortunately, over the years, I have developed the capacity to say no. Maybe I say no more than I should, but I have the power to say no. Aristotle said that what it lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not do. You have to conquer yourself and not let external desires drive you.
I am glad I can control. But every now and then, I will pretend I never learnt that lesson. I really wanted that Snickers Bar. But look today I am who I am because I resisted. Its discipline.